New Year, Same Fears?

Let's Talk Back-to-School Anxiety & Bullying

Author: Dr. Julie. Sorenson, DMFT, MA, LPC

Helping Your Child Navigate Back-to-School Stress & Bullying

As the school year approaches, many kids feel excited—ready to reconnect with friends, show off their new outfits, and meet their teachers. But for others, the thought of returning to school brings anxiety, fear, and even physical symptoms like headaches or stomachaches.

 

Some children dread academic pressure, struggle with early mornings, or worry about fitting in. Others may carry emotional scars from bullying last year—fearing they'll face the same treatment again. These concerns can weigh heavily on their mental and physical well-being.

How Parents Can Help

You can ease your child’s transition by being proactive and emotionally present:

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  • 1. Re-establish Routines Early

    Start adjusting bedtime and morning routines a week or two before school starts to reduce stress and fatigue.

  • 2. Create a Safe Space for Conversations

    Let your child know they can talk to you about their fears or worries without judgment. Ask questions like:

    “Is there anything about school that’s making you nervous?”

    “Is there anyone you’re not looking forward to seeing?”

  • 3. Support Their Emotional & Academic Needs

    • Therapists can help your child process emotions, anxiety, or past trauma.
    • Tutors can help them feel more confident academically.
    • Visual schedules and structured routines can reduce uncertainty and increase confidence.

  • 4. Collaborate With the School

    Reach out to the school counselor or teacher to create a plan of support. If bullying was an issue last year, schedule a meeting before school starts to ensure your child feels protected and heard.

  • 5. Encourage Social Connection

    Arrange low-pressure opportunities for your child to reconnect with friends before the first day—playdates, sports, or even casual meetups.

Bullying: What You Need to Know

Bullying—whether verbal, physical, or online—has lasting effects. Victims often feel:

  • Isolated, rejected, or excluded
  • Anxious or depressed
  • Unsure of their identity or self-worth

Without support, bullying can lead to serious long-term challenges like:

  • Difficulty forming relationships
  • Low self-esteem or anger
  • Risky behaviors, school avoidance, or even PTSD

 

 

Cyberbullying is especially concerning. Unlike in the past, kids today can’t “escape” bullying when they get home—texts, social media, and gaming platforms keep the harassment going 24/7. According to the CDC, nearly 16% of high school students have experienced online bullying, and L1ght reports a 70% increase since the pandemic.

Evidence-Based Bullying Prevention Programs

Ask your school if they use any of these proven programs:

  • KiVa
  • Restorative Justice
  • PBIS (Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports)
  • Second Step
  • Olweus Bullying Prevention Program (OBPP)
  • Good Behavior Game
  • CHAMPS
  • Capturing Kids’ Hearts
  • The Leader in Me

 

While these programs are helpful, parents play the most critical role in prevention. It’s not just the school’s job—it takes all of us.

dad comforting child

What Can You Do Now

  • Check in regularly with your child—emotionally and academically.
  • Set screen time boundaries and monitor online activity.
  • Model healthy communication and empathy.
  • Reach out for help if you notice signs of distress or withdrawal.

Resources for Families

 

You are your child’s strongest advocate. With awareness, support, and early intervention, we can give our kids the tools they need to thrive—not just survive—this school year.

References

Gaffney H, 2021, Effectiveness of school-based programs to reduce bullying perpetration and victimization: An updated systematic review and meta-analysis. Cambelt System Review, 2021 Apr 5;17 (2) e1143. doi: 10.1002/cl2.1143. PMID: 37131921; PMCID: PMC8356322

 

Warner M, 2021, The impact of bullying on mental health, Psychiatric and Behavioral Sciences

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